We use the phrase self-esteem to talk about the beliefs you have about yourself – what you think about the type of person you are and your abilities.
If you have healthy self-esteem, your beliefs about yourself will generally be positive. You may experience difficuwlt times in your life, but you will generally be able to deal with these without them having too much of a long-term negative impact on you.
If you have low self-esteem, your beliefs about yourself will often be negative. You will tend to focus on your weaknesses or mistakes that you have made and you may find it hard to recognise the positive parts of your personality. You may also blame yourself for any difficulties or failures that you have occurred.
Most people experience moments of low self-esteem, at some point in life. This can be a perfectly normal response to external events, from time to time. However, when low self-esteem becomes a long-term habit, it can harm your relationships with others, kill your confidence, stunt your ability to assert yourself and feed a cycle of increasing frustration and unhappiness. In fact, research has shown a correlation between low self-esteem and depression.
How can counselling help?
Counselling can help you discover the root causes for your low sense of self-worth and establish how certain behaviours, feelings, and thoughts that are contributing towards your low opinion of yourself. It can help you learn how to create more balanced, mutually respectful and satisfying relationships and gain a deeper understanding of yourself and what makes you happiest.
The biggest benefit of counselling for low self-esteem, is it can enable you to gain the ability to live your life with a stronger feeling of freedom to be who you truly are. Counselling can help you improve your self-image and reduce self-doubt and enable you to become more assertive, confident, and self-aware.
We will look at helping you recognise the relationship between your thoughts, feelings and behaviours, based on the theory that it is not what we experience but how we interpret events that determine how we feel.
Further reading and self-help on low self-esteem and confidence building
‘Overcoming Low Self-Esteem’ - A Self-Help Guide (1999) by Melanie Fennell
‘How to Be Confident and Destroy Low Self-Esteem’ - The Ultimate Guide for Turning Your Life around (Positive Thinking, Mind-Body Connection, Goal Setting, Visualization, Facing Fears) - by Beau Norton (2015)
Why use Counselling Ashford?
Hundreds of lives have been changed for the better
Proven in building a trusting relationship enabling individuals to find a greater understanding of them self and find a way forward and achieve their goals.
Help, support and guidance - reducing confusion and enabling clarity and choice
Tools for you to continue to use at home once the counselling is completed
BSC(hons) Psychology (accredited by the British Psychological Society)
Cert Counselling Skills
We subscribe to and work within the UKCP Code of Ethics and the BACP Ethical Framework
We will help you understand what is going on in your life that is causing you unhappiness
Feel relaxed in quiet, comfortable environment
Convenient & flexible appointments to suit you.
Ideally located in the heart of Kent in three practices, near Ashford, Canterbury, Maidstone and Medway
Just a note to say how grateful I am for your help and advice. I was so muddled and confused before I had my sessions with you. I can see things more clearly now and have much more confidence after your help and advice. I know I have a bit further to go but with you support I am quite sure I will get there.
P. Bennett - Rye
A friend advised me to come and see you about my anxiety attacks. I must admit to being a little sceptical at first, but you were so patient Sian and you seemed to have a knack in making me see my strengths. I cannot tell you how much it has helped me in my work and social life. I no longer want to hide away when there is an important social event. I can at last look forward to things instead of dreading meeting new people. Thanks you from the bottom of my heart.
As a man in his sixties and having seen various counsellors in the past I didn’t think anyone could help me. As you know I had suffered various bouts of depression throughout the years and had begun to think the problems were ‘built in’ and such a part of me there was no escape. It has been quite a journey but I wanted to thank you for your continuing support , help and advice. At last I can feel more positive and I am in a much happier place – thank you Sian
Thank you so much for all your help and support I feel better than I have for years!
About Counselling Ashford
Through gentle questioning and discussion you gain clarity and understanding of your situation. We will help you find ways to move forward and achieve the goals that you set yourself. We have practices in Ashford, Charing & Egerton